Giving Up Facebook

My only real New Year’s Resolution this year was to give up Facebook. There were a LOT of reasons for this. First, my dabbling research into the world of minimalism and simplicity. Second, it had become a TERRIBLE timesuck. I would find myself staring at my phone at really inappropriate times (while “‘watching” a movie with Ben, at the dinner table, at parties), just scrolling, scrolling, scrolling. It was gross, and I hated it. Third, it wasn’t making me happy. If anything, it usually made me sad, mad, annoyed, or any number of other negative emotions, which seems pretty counter-intuitive. There are countless other reasons, but those are the top three.

I had/have a lot of anxiety about giving up the ‘book. Firstly, it’s become pretty ubiquitous as a way to find out about stuff going on, either party invites, or local events or what have you. It seems like something isn’t “real” or “official” until it’s “Facebook Official.” I’m experiencing FOMO, worrying that I’ll somehow receive less event invitations, or not find out about cool stuff happening, or miss out on fun milestones in my friends’ and family’s lives. Which is kind of dumb actually, considering the fact that I rarely go to parties/bars/social events even when I AM invited. And I know that the people who truly care about me and want to see me will find ways to invite me places and keep me updated on their lives other than via Facebook.

I’m also worried about missing out on audition opportunities. A lot of theatre companies use Facebook almost exclusively to post audition notices. Some companies have email lists, which I’m on, but a lot don’t. Staying on top of theatre opportunities is going to be more work now. I will have to check websites and write down dates rather than just getting Facebook event reminders. And yeah, I may miss some things. But is that really the end of the world? Is that really a reason to stay connected to a social network that’s draining my time and energy? Heck no!

So, I deactivated my Facebook account before I went to bed on New Year’s Eve. That means it’s now been over a week since I’ve logged in, checked a notification, or seen a message. It’s been… strange, but also good. I still find myself pulling out my phone all the damn time, but Facebook isn’t there, so I put it back. I’m definitely spending less time staring at my phone, which is great.

I’m still on Instagram and Twitter, and while I’m still technically logged into Snapchat, I’ve never really liked it and use it pretty rarely. IG is by far my favorite form of social media. Because it’s just pictures, I find it quick and easy to get “caught up” on the happenings, but it’s not something that causes me to get sucked in and scroll for crazy amounts of time. Twitter is starting to feel really overwhelming and not very useful at all as a way to stay connected, so I may get rid of it in the near future as well.

I’m not sure how long this FB hiatus will be, but I’d love to manage to do it for a whole year. No matter what happens, I’m really enjoying the break.

Have you ever taken a big step back from social media? How did it go?

Friday Free-For-All – 12/29/17

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House Update: When last I updated you guys, we were anxiously waiting to find out whether or not the seller had secured a new place to live. Thankfully, we have cleared that hurdle and moved into normal closing procedures. We’ve done the home inspection and appraisal, both of which came back pretty much as expected. There are a few items that will need to be fixed before closing, but nothing major. We are excited, but also still cautious at this point. This has been a fairly non-standard and very stressful process thus far, so we don’t want to get our hopes up. Our closing date is currently set for January 18, and we are keeping our fingers and toes and eyes crossed that everything goes well.

My only New Year’s Resolution this year is to give up Facebook.┬áThe main reason is that I’ve been wasting WAY too much time endlessly scrolling lately. I hate being sucked in so much, but can’t really seem to self-limit. The other issue is that too often I find myself mad or sad at what I’m seeing on Facebook. Political drama, personal drama, unnecessary photos of animal cruelty designed to make you feel bad and donate money… I’m not saying I don’t want to be aware of what’s going on in the world; I read the news and discuss politics and world affairs with friends and family. I just don’t need to be bombarded with that stuff constantly. My mental health is more important to me than following along with all the minutia. So I’m deactivating my FB account at midnight on New Year’s Eve. I don’t know if this will be a permanent thing, but I’m planning to stick it out as long as possible. I survived before Facebook, and I know I’ll survive without it now.

I got a new Funko Pop to add to my Lady Army: Captain Phasma! It was a lovely Christmas surprise from my friend Kellie, and I couldn’t be happier to add another badass lady to the gang.


Did you make a New Year’s resolution?